Forgiveness

Big theme that keeps coming up lately.

Forgiveness allows us to let go, and let flow.

For some, this may be really hard to take in, and some may stop reading here….

But, there is SO much power in forgiveness.

𝙁𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙝𝙪𝙧𝙩 𝙪𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙩. This helps to release the stored negative energy surrounding the stories of these experiences. Bring awareness to the times someone else has hurt you and you have not been able to let go. Allowing the feelings to surface and giving them space as you bring awareness to them. To feel is to heal. As they are felt, notice where the sensations are in your body and bring awareness to them. Even place your hand there.  Identify what those feelings are. Allow them to be there, and allow them to release. Actively reframe the thoughts and retell the story about this experience in a way that feels better, finding understanding within and for others, and seeking the underlying blessings and lessons that you can take away from that experience. Even traumatic experiences can be transcended in this way.

𝙁𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙨. Perpetuated guilt and shame serves no-one. Sometimes it is important to feel these low vibration feelings such as guilt and shame for a short while, as they help us to understand that we did not like our actions and we want to do better. But holding on to these feelings and continually shaming yourself with negative self talk and holding onto guilt will only create distress and disease in the body. Give yourself grace, and understand that you did the best that you could with what you had and what you knew in the moment.

We often hurt the ones we love when we are hurt ourselves, and the underlying need is actually connection and safety. We have learned ways to express ourselves inauthentically in order to protect our ego. To satisfy our need for connection, we can practise vulnerability and courage instead. Being vulnerable allows us to form healthier connections with those around us, and opens up channels of communication.

𝙁𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙙𝙚𝙗𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙣𝙚𝙜𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙢𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙮. This will help us to allow more abundance to flow in to our experience as we release the energy we have stored in the stories, and lessen our resistance. All the situations where you have felt bad, jealous or judgemental about money, or felt wronged involving money - bring awareness to them, and forgive and release them. Continue to forgive as you become aware of these stories that will pop up as you do the work to release this money block that is pinching off the abundance that is available to you.

𝙁𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙘𝙞𝙧𝙘𝙪𝙢𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙨 𝙬𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙣'𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙩𝙧𝙤𝙡. While we are the creators of our own reality and we co-create with others, we cannot control others or what happens to them. We cannot control if our loved ones get sick, or something happens to them. We can’t control something that has already happened in the past. We can’t control the way other people think, feel, behave or act. What we do have control over is our own thoughts, feelings, words, actions, and behaviour in response to them. We have control over our mindset and perspective.

𝙁𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙗𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙨. Letting go of the energy we have stored from our experiences allows us to be aware of the situations where we felt negative emotions, and can help us to learn lessons that bring to light where healthy boundaries may be necessary. When forgiving others, it can also sometimes mean keeping them at a distance and recognizing that it is not healthy to have them be an active or large part in your life. Especially if boundaries are not respected or trust has been too far crossed.

For some, forgiveness may be particularly hard, because the hurt and anger feels so justified.

For some, this may be triggering and bring up thoughts like “but what happened really hurt me and affected me”  or “but what I did was so horrible”. You may have grown up poor and really struggling, or money was used to hurt you in some way, and it can feel hard to create different beliefs surrounding money…

I see you, and for all the times you felt you needed to but never heard it, I’m sorry ❤️ I have personal experience in all of these areas too. The hurt is valid, but holding onto the hurt and false paradigms will only keep hurting YOU.

If you’ve read to the end, something here resonates. Sending love to you today 🙏💖✨

Jen